Based on this weekâ€™s readings and videos, you now have some information to help you understand what you need in order to achieve your goals, and you also have some strategies for requesting help from your friends and family during your college journey.
Your assignment this week is to have an â€œI needâ€ conversation with someone close to you (friend or family member). There are two parts to this assignment. First, you need to prepare for your discussion by creating a â€œconversation plan.â€ Then, you need to reflect on how the conversation unfolded. You will submit your outline of the conversation plan (part one) on the same page as your reflection (part two).
PART ONE: Here is the outline for your conversation plan.
1.Create a vision of the ideal state (â€œI want to earn this college degreeâ€)
2.Explain your reasons for setting that goal, be sure to point out whatâ€™s in it for your friend/family member (â€œWith a degree, I can earn more money for our familyâ€)
3.Explain what it will take in order for you to achieve that goal (â€œI need two to three hours of quiet time each night in order to studyâ€)
4.Explain how the other person can help you (â€œIf you can bathe the kids and put them to bed, I will be able to studyâ€)
5.Anticipate any resistance (â€œI know you are tired by the end of the day, and so it may be a challenge to do that by yourselfâ€)
6.Offer a solution or a compromise (â€œI can help on the weekends, but I have deadlines on Sundays and Tuesdaysâ€)
7.Remind your friend/family member of the positive outcome (â€œIf we can work this out, then I can graduate in three years and we then will be able to afford that new car we want to buyâ€)
PART TWO: After you have the â€œI needâ€ conversation, reflect upon how it went. Then, write a reflection paper that includes the following information
1.Recap your â€œI needâ€¦â€ conversation. With whom did you have the conversation? Did you cover your main points? Why or why not?
2.Reflect on your emotions. How were you feeling during the conversation?
3.Analyze your friend/family memberâ€™s reaction. How did the person respond to your conversation?
4.Anticipated results: Do you believe you will get what you need? Why or why not?
5.If you were to have the â€œI needâ€ conversation with a second person, would you change anything given your experience with the first conversation? Why or why not?
Remember to include the following information at the top of your paper:
Your First and Last Name